How to Disagree with Other People

Disagreeing with someone must not be the end of the relationship; rather, it can become the first stepping stone to a stronger friendship or better relationship or deeper understanding. 

 

If we were to take a page out of Jesus’ playbook, we would become more relational in our society, rather than becoming out of control arguers or defenders of “truth” or wall builders to keep the sinners out. 

 

Jesus’ disagreement Playbook…

 

Jesus disagreed with Zacchaeus’ tax collecting motives, but instead of ignoring him or gossiping about him, Jesus invited himself to Zaccaeus’ house. They sat down together at the kitchen table and talked it out. 

 

Jesus disagreed with the life choices of the Samaritan woman who was shacked up with a guy. Instead of throwing the Law book at her, Jesus spent time with her around the water hole and talked it out. 

 

Jesus disagreed with Peter who was one of his disciples, but instead of kicking him out of the apprenticeship, they talked it out. 

 

Disagreeing with someone is not a sin, it’s how or the way we disagree with someone that can become problematic. It’s ok to stand up for your convictions or truth, but it’s not ok to be hateful, condescending or slanderous. 

 

When disagreeing….

Be kind

Be sensitive

Be gentle

Be patient

Be truthful

Be love

 

Remember, Be God Controlled!